“A Piece of Blarney Stone” 10 Ways to Empower Your Communication

The Blarney Stone is a historical stone, or actually part of the Blarney Castle in Ireland where it was believed that kissing the stone can grant you the gift of gab. Yeah, it seems strange in this day and age, but who are we to question tradition? It’s not like I’m saying that Santa Claus doesn’t exist (OOPS!).

There is so much to know about conversation that anyone, even I, could ever realize. You can go through watching talk shows; radio programs; clubs dedicated to public speaking; ordinary conversations; certain rules still apply when it comes to interaction through words. It may sound tedious, I know, but even though it’s your mouth that’s doing the work, your brain works twice as hard to churn out a lot of things you know. So, what better way to start learning to be an effective communication is to know the very person closest to you: yourself.

1. What you know.

Education is all about learning the basics, but to be an effective speaker is to practice what you’ve learned. My stint as guest at every Toastmasters’ meeting I go to taught me that we all have our limitations, but that doesn’t mean we can’t learn to keep up and share what we know.

2. Listening.

It’s just as important as asking questions. Sometimes listening to the sound of our own voice can teach us to be a little bit confident with ourselves and to say the things we believe in with conviction.

3. Humility

We all make mistakes, and sometimes we tend to slur our words, stutter, and probably mispronounce certain words even though we know what it means, but rarely use it only to impress listeners. So, in a group, don’t be afraid to ask if you’re saying the right word properly and if they’re unsure about it then make a joke out of it. I promise you it’ll make everyone laugh and you can get away with it as well.

4. Eye Contact

There’s a lot to say when it comes to directing your attention to your audience with an eye-catching gaze. It’s important that you keep your focus when talking to a large group in a meeting or a gathering, even though he or she may be gorgeous.

5. Kidding around

A little bit of humor can do wonders to lift the tension, or worse boredom when making your speech. That way, you’ll get the attention of the majority of the crowd and they’ll feel that you’re just as approachable, and as human to those who listen.

6. Be like the rest of them

Interaction is all about mingling with other people. You’ll get a lot of ideas, as well as knowing what people make them as they are.

7. Me, Myself, and I

Admit it, there are times you sing to yourself in the shower. I know I do! Listening to the sound of your own voice while you practice your speech in front of a mirror can help correct the stress areas of your pitch. And while you’re at it you can spruce up as well.

8. With a smile

A smile says it all much like eye contact. There’s no point on grimacing or frowning in a meeting or a gathering unless it’s a wake. You can better express what you’re saying when you smile.

9. A Role Model

There must be at least one or two people in your life you have listened to when they’re at a public gathering or maybe at church. Sure, they read their lines, but taking a mental note of how they emphasize what they say can help you once you take center stage.

10. Preparation

Make the best out of preparation rather than just scribbling notes and often in a hurried panic. Some people like to write things down on index cards, while other resort to being a little sillier as they look at their notes written on the palm of their hand (not for clammy hands, please). Just be comfortable with what you know since you enjoy your work.

And that about wraps it up. These suggestions are rather amateurish in edgewise, but I’ve learned to empower myself when it comes to public or private speaking and it never hurts to be with people to listen how they make conversations and meetings far more enjoyable as well as educational.

The Benefits of Journaling

Who Can Journal?

  • Anyone who wants to focus on aspects of their life from emotions to goals.
  • Women, men, children.
  • Anyone who wants to focus on internal or external goals.
  • People who want to record memories or experiences.

Journal Prompt #1 Describe yourself and why you want to journal or why you came to this class.

The Benefits of Journaling

  1. Manage anxiety and help reduce stress as well as help with depression and PTSD.
  2. It helps you prioritize things in your life such as your goals, fears, concerns.
  3. It helps you look at how you see things and complete self-talk and analysis of your actions and words. It helps your self being.
  4. It stimulates creativity and helps you find your voice.
  5. It improves your memory in everyone- students, working and older people.
  6. Scientific Studies show that it helps strengthen the immune system, drop blood pressure, and help you sleep better too.
  7. Helps you keep track of goals- food, workout weight loss, career, school etc.
  8. It teaches you about your triggers and how to handle them.
  9. It helps you stay focused and not procrastinate on projects.
  10. If you are writing with gratitude, then it shows you what the bright side of life.

Journal Prompt #2 – Write about what benefits you may get from journaling

How to Journal

  1. Find the right journal for you. There are many types and we will talk about this next.
  2. Find a quiet place to journal free from distractions and interruptions.
  3. Chose the time of day- morning or evening or both? How often do you want to journal?
  4. Write when you want to reset your day or when you are out of your regular routine.
  5. Set how long you want to journal – 5 minutes or an hour.
  6. Find a style of writing that you like – bullets, formal, conversational. There is no wrong or right way. IT can change all the time. It can be anything that you wish.
  7. Give yourself some time to think during and after. Do not rush.
  8. Journal about what you want to. Simply think about what comes to mind. Be honest with yourself.
  9. Do something creative and change the style up each time.
  10. Keep the journal private. Use it how you chose.

Journal Prompt #3- How will your journaling time look like? What will be easy and what will be a challenge?

Types of Journals

  1. Nature Journals- keeping track of things that they see in nature and researching more about them.
  2. Feelings Journal – write about your feelings that you feel right now
  3. Gratitude Journal – what are you grateful for? Do this in the morning to set your day or evening to help reflect on things that you may see a different way.
  4. Reading Journal – what are you reading? Reflect on it?
  5. Bullet Journal – to do list, random ideas, lists of items. This can include taking notes and jotting down thoughts, short term and long-term goals, food, exercise, and more
  6. Travel and Vacation Journal – these can be pictures, postcards, experiences, and more
  7. Dream Journal – keep this next to your bed and write in it when you are woken from a dream
  8. Project Journal – keeping notes of a project that you are working on the plans, the experience, and the outcomes.
  9. Journalistic Journal- Write about what you see happening around you. You this time to really observe and see what we miss daily when rushing
  10. Specific Topic – write about anything that you wish
  11. Spiritual Journal – write about your spiritual readings, experiences, etc.
  12. Personal Journal – use this like a diary.
  13. Meditation Journal – use this after your meditation to write your experiences
  14. Daily Planning Journal – this is great for planning your day
  15. Workout Journals- keep your workout routine and notes in one place. Take it to the gym with you and use to to see progress
  16. Weight loss or Gain Journal- Keep track or food, recipes, nutrition
  17. Memoir Journal – begin writing from as far back as you can remember and go up to present-day
  18. Pandemic journal – write your experiences about the pandemic.
  19. Create Your Own Story – You are the hero. Create a fiction/nonfiction fusion story to deal with issues and things in the real world.

Journal Apps

Keep your info https://www.popsci.com/apps-to-journal-on-smartphone/

Journal Prompt #4- What type or types of journaling do you want to do?

Things to add to Journaling to help Promote Better Health

  1. Relax and meditate each day.
  2. Eat a healthy, balanced diet.
  3. Exercise regularly—get in some activity every day.
  4. Treat yourself to plenty of sleep each night.
  5. Use your journal to make sure you follow these guidelines daily.

Journal Prompts

  1. What do you see, hear and smell around you? Write or draw it
    1. Make a to do list and prioritize it
    1. What do you feel right now?
    1. Let us do a guided meditation. What did you see?

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Bertena’s 49th Birthday (11-11) Specials

To help me celebrate my 49th Birthday on 11-11 I am offering some really great specials for friends and clients on all the services that I offer.

As many of you know I have been trying to get my business going and am hoping my last year before I hit 50 will be the year to get it off it’s feet and going strong.

In order to do that I need a large amount of money but I am making a goal of $1000 to help me pay for certifications, licenses, liability insurance, Websites, cameras, video recording and editing programs and more.

So, here are the specials.

This special is being offered until December 31. Some specials extend into next year.

Free- Self Care Class- https://classroom.google.com/c/MTA1Mjk5MzE3MjI2?cjc=24hwbtr

$5 Specials
1 Yoga class per month
OR
Distant Reiki sent to you each morning for one month during my morning meditation.

$10 Specials
3 yoga classes per month
OR
Distant Reiki sent to you each morning and evening for one month during my morning meditation.

$15 Special
Any Distant Reiki Attunement listed on the website here https://anewyouselfcare.com/reiki-distant-attunements/

$20 Specials
Unlimited yoga and meditation classes and Reiki and Tarot Share Zoom Meetings for one month
OR
Distant Reiki sent to you each morning, afternoon, and evening for one month during my morning meditation.

$40 Special
Unlimited Yoga and meditation, Reiki, and Tarot Share Zoom Meetings and 1 month of Healthy Living Support Group Workshop for 1 month.

$60 Special
Unlimited 1 month for all Sunday through Friday classes and Workshops. This includes yoga, meditation, Reiki and Tarot Share, Tuesday Workshops and Thursday Healthy Living Support Group.
OR
A 2021 Month by Month Tarot Card Reading- 1-hour session.

$80 Special
ALL Distant Reiki Attunement listed on the website here https://anewyouselfcare.com/reiki-distant-attunements/

$100 Specials
2 30-minute tarot readings and daily reiki sent each morning distantly for 1 month.

$125 Special
Unlimited Yoga and Meditation Classes and Reiki and Tarot Share until June 30, 2021. Distant Reiki sent to you each morning during meditation.

$250 Special
Unlimited Yoga and Meditation classes and Reiki and Tarot Share until December 2021. Distant Reiki sent to you each morning during meditation.
OR
Usui Reiki 1 and 2 Reiki Certification Classes – that’s $50 off the normal price

$300 Special
Sign up for Usui Reiki 1 and 2 Reiki Certification Classes get Angel Reiki Certification Class FREE!

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Usui Reiki, 1, 2, and Master Reiki Certification Classes – that’s $75 off the normal price

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$650 Special
Usui Reiki, 1, 2, Teacher and Master Reiki Certification Classes AND Angel Reiki Certification Class– that’s $100 off the normal price

$800 Special
Advanced registration for Usui Reiki, 1, 2, 3, and Spiritual Reiki for Yoga Teachers

If you refer someone then you may choose any of the $15 or below items to receive for free IF your referral spends more than $20

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Chakra Workshop Tonight

You are invited to attend our Sacral Chakra Workshop this evening at 6pm CT on Zoom for only $10. The chakra of sexual energy and creativity.

In this workshop, you will receive a handout of information, a PowerPoint of notes, and a video of the class.

We will be covering what this chakra looks like when balanced, too closed, and too open. We will be doing a yantra meditation, journaling activity, and movements that will balance the sacral chakra. We will also be discussing food, flowers, essential oils, tarot cards, angels, etc. to balance this chakra as well.

We did the Root Chakra Workshop last month and that material is available for $10.

We will be doing 8 more of these over the next 8 months for a total of 10 classes. This is normally $100 but if you pay today for all 10 of these you save $25 and the total would only be $75.

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“What Really Makes You Tick?” 10 Questions You Should Ask to Yourself: A Preparation to Self-Improvement

Be all you can be, but it’s not always in the Army. I often see myself as somewhat contented with my life the way things are, but of course it’s hard to think of anything else when where are real issues to be discussed.

Still I aspire for something deeper and more meaningful.

So, we’re all pelted with problems. Honestly, it shouldn’t even bother or even hinder us to becoming all we ought to be. Aspirations as kids should continue to live within us, even though it would be short-lived or as long as we could hold on to the dream. They say you can’t teach an old dog new tricks… or can they?

1. What do I really want?

The question of the ages. So many things you want to do with your life and so little time to even go about during the day.

Find something that you are good at can help realize that small step towards improvement. Diligence is the key to know that it is worth it.

2. Should I really change?

Today’s generation has taken another level of redefining ‘self’, or at least that’s what the kids are saying. Having an army of teenage nieces and nephews has taught me that there are far worse things that they could have had than acne or maybe even promiscuity. So how does that fit into your lifestyle?

If history has taught us one thing, it’s the life that we have gone through. Try to see if partying Seventies style wouldn’t appeal to the younger generation, but dancing is part of partying. Watch them applaud after showing them how to really dance than break their bones in break-dancing.

3. What’s the bright side in all of this?

With so much is happening around us there seem to be no room for even considering that light at the end of the tunnel. We can still see it as something positive without undergoing so much scrutiny. And if it’s a train at the end of the tunnel, take it for a ride and see what makes the world go round!

4. Am I comfortable with what I’m doing?

There’s always the easy way and the right way when it comes to deciding what goes with which shoes, or purse, shirt, and whatnot. It doesn’t take a genius to see yourself as someone unique, or else we’ll all be equally the same in everything we do. Variety brings in very interesting and exciting questions to be experimented.

5. Have I done enough for myself?

Have you, or is there something more you want to do? Discontentment in every aspect can be dangerous in large doses, but in small amounts you’ll be able to see and do stuff you could never imagine doing.

6. Am I happy at where I am today?

It’s an unfair question so let it be an answer! You love being a good and loving mom or dad to your kids, then take it up a notch! Your kids will love you forever. The same goes with everyday life!

7. Am I appealing to the opposite sex?

So maybe I don’t have an answer to that, but that doesn’t mean I can’t try it, though. Whether your shape-up, change the way you wear your clothes or hair, or even your attitude towards people, you should always remember it will always be for your own benefit.

8. How much could I have?

I suppose in this case there is no such things on having things too much or too little, but it’s more on how badly you really need it. I’d like to have lots of money, no denying that, but the question is that how much are you willing to work for it?

9. What motivates me?

What motivates you? It’s an answer you must find out for yourself. There are so many things that can make everyone happy, but to choose one of the may be the hardest part. It’s not like you can’t have one serving of your favorite food in a buffet and that’s it. Just try it piece by piece.

10. What Really Makes You Tick?

So? What really makes you tick? You can be just about anything you always wanted to be, but to realize that attaining something that may seem very difficult is already giving up before you even start that journey. Always remember, that self-improvement is not just about the physical or philosophical change you must undergo, but it’s something that you really want.

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