A Double-Sided Coin

I have two questions for you. How do you feel about yourself?  How well organized are you?

Notice that if you feel fairly well organized then you probably feel rather good about yourself, i.e. your self-esteem is probably high.

In fact, if you are reading personal development books, listening to audio programs, or attending seminars on personal development and self-esteem, then chances are you’re caught in a circle.

You do some personal development, and you feel better, and you get on with life, but the disorganization of your life catches up with you and so you go back to doing a bunch of personal development.

Self-esteem and personal organization are essentially two sides of the same coin. The coin that opens those gateways to all success. You can focus on either of those sides separately, but in the end, organization depends on self-esteem, and vice versa, self-esteem depends on getting organized in your career development and personal life.

By emotionally getting involved with taking extra control of your personal areas at work and home you will start feeling proud of your surroundings, and ever more competent at getting organized.

Focusing intellectually on how to get organized, and emotionally super-charging that effort for all the positive emotions that come from being organized, will boost your self-esteem. And that provides ever more fuel to get organized even more.

Self-esteem and Getting Organized create a self-supporting positive feedback mechanism. The more you improve on one of them, the more the other will improve.

Your two-pronged attack is to work on both, be mindful of both, understand how they both inter-relate, and ultimately combine as two sides of the same coin. The coin that affords your every desire, and inevitably brings you all that you deserve

A Diabetic Diet for Vegetarians

If you are a vegetarian who has been diagnosed with diabetes, you can still maintain your diabetic diet.  In some cases, a vegetarian diet may be a healthy way to keep your blood glucose levels stable – that is if you are eating lean high-quality proteins and are following other rules for eating as a diabetic. As a lot of vegans and vegetarians eat a larger amount of fruits and vegetables in a day than a non-vegetarian and their fiber intake is much higher too.  An increased amount of fiber in a diabetic’s diet can help blood sugars because it slows down the process of the body digesting carbohydrates.  A vegetarian’s diet is usually lower in cholesterol as well and it can help ward off cardiovascular disease including heart attacks and strokes.

If you are diabetic and are considering a switch to a diabetic diet some of the benefits you might derive include a higher rate of weight loss and better blood sugar readings.  This is dependent on the types of vegetarian meals you choose as some meatless meals can be just as fattening as ones that contain meat.

Speak to your doctor and dietician before making the switch.  You will need information on how to transition yourself to your new diet.  You will also get a list of meat alternatives you should eat in order to get enough protein in a day.  These can include tofu, nuts, eggs, and seeds.

As with any change, once your switch to a vegetarian diet give yourself and your body time to adjust.  There are many recipes and ideas for vegetarian dishes, and you will find a lot of variety and flexibility in the meals that you prepare.  Check your blood sugars frequently to make sure your blood glucose levels remain stable during the change.

“Who’s the Boss?” 10 Ways to Start Taking Control (Time Management, Goal Setting, Record Tracking)

At first glance, positive thinking, and time management and goal setting have nothing to do with one another. But many of us develop negative thinking patterns because we become frustrated by our challenges and frequent feelings of being overwhelmed. This negative outlook then makes it even harder for us to manage those challenges and move forward.

Practicing positive thinking allows people to focus on our strengths and accomplishments, which increases happiness and motivation. This, in turn, allows us to spend more time making progress, and less time feeling down and stuck. The following tips provide practical suggestions that you can use to help you shift into more positive thinking patterns:

1. Take Good Care of Yourself

It’s much easier to be positive when you are eating well, exercising, and getting enough rest.

2. Remind Yourself of the Things You Are Grateful For

Stresses and challenges don’t seem quite as bad when you are constantly reminding yourself of the things that are right in life. Taking just 60 seconds a day to stop and appreciate the good things will make a huge difference.

3. Look for the Proof Instead of Making Assumptions

A fear of not being liked or accepted sometimes leads us to assume that we know what others are thinking, but our fears are usually not reality. If you have a fear that a friend or family member’s bad mood is due to something you did, or that your co-workers are secretly gossiping about you when you turn your back, speak up and ask them. Don’t waste time worrying that you did something wrong unless you have proof that there is something to worry about.

4. Refrain from Using Absolutes

Have you ever told a partner “You’re ALWAYS late!” or complained to a friend “You NEVER call me!”? Thinking and speaking in absolutes like ‘always’ and ‘never’ makes the situation seem worse than it is, and programs your brain into believing that certain people are incapable of delivering.

5. Detach From Negative Thoughts

Your thoughts can’t hold any power over you if you don’t judge them. If you notice yourself having a negative thought, detach from it, witness it, and don’t follow it.

6. Squash the “ANTs”

In his book “Change Your Brain, Change Your Life,” Dr. Daniel Amen talks about “ANTs” – Automatic Negative Thoughts. These are the bad thoughts that are usually reactionary, like “Those people are laughing, they must be talking about me,” or “The boss wants to see me? It must be bad!” When you notice these thoughts, realize that they are nothing more than ANTs and squash them!

7. Practice Lovin’, Touchin’ & Squeezin’ (Your Friends and Family)

You don’t have to be an expert to know the benefits of a good hug. Positive physical contact with friends, loved ones, and even pets, is an instant pick-me-up. One research study on this subject had a waitress touch some of her customers on the arm as she handed them their checks. She received higher tips from these customers than from the ones she didn’t touch!

8. Increase Your Social Activity

By increasing social activity, you decrease loneliness. Surround yourself with healthy, happy people, and their positive energy will affect you in a positive way!

9. Volunteer for an Organization, or Help another Person

Everyone feels good after helping. You can volunteer your time, your money, or your resources. The more positive energy you put out into the world, the more you will receive in return.

10. Use Pattern Interrupts to Combat Rumination

If you find yourself ruminating, a great way to stop it is to interrupt the pattern and force yourself to do something completely different. Rumination is like hyper-focus on something negative. It’s never productive, because it’s not rational or solution-oriented, it’s just excessive worry. Try changing your physical environment – go for a walk or sit outside. You could also call a friend, pick up a book, or turn on some music.

To know the things needed to do are the basics of productivity, but interaction and having a steady mind makes up the entire thing to true productivity. There are those who seem to work well even under pressure, but they’re uncommon ones and we are human and imperfect. To get these little things like stress under our skins won’t solve our problems. Sometimes it takes a bit of courage to admit that we’re turning to be workaholics than tell ourselves that we’re not doing our best.

“A Piece of Blarney Stone” 10 Ways to Empower Your Communication

The Blarney Stone is a historical stone, or actually part of the Blarney Castle in Ireland where it was believed that kissing the stone can grant you the gift of gab. Yeah, it seems strange in this day and age, but who are we to question tradition? It’s not like I’m saying that Santa Claus doesn’t exist (OOPS!).

There is so much to know about conversation that anyone, even I, could ever realize. You can go through watching talk shows; radio programs; clubs dedicated to public speaking; ordinary conversations; certain rules still apply when it comes to interaction through words. It may sound tedious, I know, but even though it’s your mouth that’s doing the work, your brain works twice as hard to churn out a lot of things you know. So, what better way to start learning to be an effective communication is to know the very person closest to you: yourself.

1. What you know.

Education is all about learning the basics, but to be an effective speaker is to practice what you’ve learned. My stint as guest at every Toastmasters’ meeting I go to taught me that we all have our limitations, but that doesn’t mean we can’t learn to keep up and share what we know.

2. Listening.

It’s just as important as asking questions. Sometimes listening to the sound of our own voice can teach us to be a little bit confident with ourselves and to say the things we believe in with conviction.

3. Humility

We all make mistakes, and sometimes we tend to slur our words, stutter, and probably mispronounce certain words even though we know what it means, but rarely use it only to impress listeners. So, in a group, don’t be afraid to ask if you’re saying the right word properly and if they’re unsure about it then make a joke out of it. I promise you it’ll make everyone laugh and you can get away with it as well.

4. Eye Contact

There’s a lot to say when it comes to directing your attention to your audience with an eye-catching gaze. It’s important that you keep your focus when talking to a large group in a meeting or a gathering, even though he or she may be gorgeous.

5. Kidding around

A little bit of humor can do wonders to lift the tension, or worse boredom when making your speech. That way, you’ll get the attention of the majority of the crowd and they’ll feel that you’re just as approachable, and as human to those who listen.

6. Be like the rest of them

Interaction is all about mingling with other people. You’ll get a lot of ideas, as well as knowing what people make them as they are.

7. Me, Myself, and I

Admit it, there are times you sing to yourself in the shower. I know I do! Listening to the sound of your own voice while you practice your speech in front of a mirror can help correct the stress areas of your pitch. And while you’re at it you can spruce up as well.

8. With a smile

A smile says it all much like eye contact. There’s no point on grimacing or frowning in a meeting or a gathering unless it’s a wake. You can better express what you’re saying when you smile.

9. A Role Model

There must be at least one or two people in your life you have listened to when they’re at a public gathering or maybe at church. Sure, they read their lines, but taking a mental note of how they emphasize what they say can help you once you take center stage.

10. Preparation

Make the best out of preparation rather than just scribbling notes and often in a hurried panic. Some people like to write things down on index cards, while other resort to being a little sillier as they look at their notes written on the palm of their hand (not for clammy hands, please). Just be comfortable with what you know since you enjoy your work.

And that about wraps it up. These suggestions are rather amateurish in edgewise, but I’ve learned to empower myself when it comes to public or private speaking and it never hurts to be with people to listen how they make conversations and meetings far more enjoyable as well as educational.

The Benefits of Journaling

Who Can Journal?

  • Anyone who wants to focus on aspects of their life from emotions to goals.
  • Women, men, children.
  • Anyone who wants to focus on internal or external goals.
  • People who want to record memories or experiences.

Journal Prompt #1 Describe yourself and why you want to journal or why you came to this class.

The Benefits of Journaling

  1. Manage anxiety and help reduce stress as well as help with depression and PTSD.
  2. It helps you prioritize things in your life such as your goals, fears, concerns.
  3. It helps you look at how you see things and complete self-talk and analysis of your actions and words. It helps your self being.
  4. It stimulates creativity and helps you find your voice.
  5. It improves your memory in everyone- students, working and older people.
  6. Scientific Studies show that it helps strengthen the immune system, drop blood pressure, and help you sleep better too.
  7. Helps you keep track of goals- food, workout weight loss, career, school etc.
  8. It teaches you about your triggers and how to handle them.
  9. It helps you stay focused and not procrastinate on projects.
  10. If you are writing with gratitude, then it shows you what the bright side of life.

Journal Prompt #2 – Write about what benefits you may get from journaling

How to Journal

  1. Find the right journal for you. There are many types and we will talk about this next.
  2. Find a quiet place to journal free from distractions and interruptions.
  3. Chose the time of day- morning or evening or both? How often do you want to journal?
  4. Write when you want to reset your day or when you are out of your regular routine.
  5. Set how long you want to journal – 5 minutes or an hour.
  6. Find a style of writing that you like – bullets, formal, conversational. There is no wrong or right way. IT can change all the time. It can be anything that you wish.
  7. Give yourself some time to think during and after. Do not rush.
  8. Journal about what you want to. Simply think about what comes to mind. Be honest with yourself.
  9. Do something creative and change the style up each time.
  10. Keep the journal private. Use it how you chose.

Journal Prompt #3- How will your journaling time look like? What will be easy and what will be a challenge?

Types of Journals

  1. Nature Journals- keeping track of things that they see in nature and researching more about them.
  2. Feelings Journal – write about your feelings that you feel right now
  3. Gratitude Journal – what are you grateful for? Do this in the morning to set your day or evening to help reflect on things that you may see a different way.
  4. Reading Journal – what are you reading? Reflect on it?
  5. Bullet Journal – to do list, random ideas, lists of items. This can include taking notes and jotting down thoughts, short term and long-term goals, food, exercise, and more
  6. Travel and Vacation Journal – these can be pictures, postcards, experiences, and more
  7. Dream Journal – keep this next to your bed and write in it when you are woken from a dream
  8. Project Journal – keeping notes of a project that you are working on the plans, the experience, and the outcomes.
  9. Journalistic Journal- Write about what you see happening around you. You this time to really observe and see what we miss daily when rushing
  10. Specific Topic – write about anything that you wish
  11. Spiritual Journal – write about your spiritual readings, experiences, etc.
  12. Personal Journal – use this like a diary.
  13. Meditation Journal – use this after your meditation to write your experiences
  14. Daily Planning Journal – this is great for planning your day
  15. Workout Journals- keep your workout routine and notes in one place. Take it to the gym with you and use to to see progress
  16. Weight loss or Gain Journal- Keep track or food, recipes, nutrition
  17. Memoir Journal – begin writing from as far back as you can remember and go up to present-day
  18. Pandemic journal – write your experiences about the pandemic.
  19. Create Your Own Story – You are the hero. Create a fiction/nonfiction fusion story to deal with issues and things in the real world.

Journal Apps

Keep your info https://www.popsci.com/apps-to-journal-on-smartphone/

Journal Prompt #4- What type or types of journaling do you want to do?

Things to add to Journaling to help Promote Better Health

  1. Relax and meditate each day.
  2. Eat a healthy, balanced diet.
  3. Exercise regularly—get in some activity every day.
  4. Treat yourself to plenty of sleep each night.
  5. Use your journal to make sure you follow these guidelines daily.

Journal Prompts

  1. What do you see, hear and smell around you? Write or draw it
    1. Make a to do list and prioritize it
    1. What do you feel right now?
    1. Let us do a guided meditation. What did you see?

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